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Passion – what is it? Passion is the emotional state of heightened tension, arising up under the influence of different reasons. (Atlas of psychology) Passion is bright, excessive, uncontrolled emotions, lasting some time.

When we wish something passionately and feel ardent attraction, we can overcome the obstacles to get the object of desire. Any object can be the object of passion. If we will take the area of human relations, the object of passion will be a human being - man or woman. What has happened, when we feel passion to another person? There is intense excitation and tension of senses. I want!!! I wish passionately!!!

Here is how Dyurkgeym describes the state of attraction by idea: A man feels power of outside forces above himself, that carrying him away and don’t bend in his will… he feel they transferring him into the new world, unlike that he lives in. Life becomes not only more intense but also gets higher stage of quality. A person disconnects from himself, the personal interests; forgets about himself and subjects himself to serving a purpose entirely... In such moments life, in the name of idea, becomes so intensive and keen, that seizes consciousness of people completely, ousting all of selfish and everyday aspirations. When Dyurgeym wrote these lines, he wrote about the French revolution and didn’t actually think about passion. These lines, however, can describe passion and its determination. Passion is the simplest form of motion towards some object. Two subjects move to each other and create We at some moment Alberoni named this moment the state of origin.

Passion throws down a challenge to the foundation of a human’s way of life. It proposes creation of anything new on the base of two separate structures. The period of the depressed overloads precedes appearance of all motions. Everyday life does not give us the possibility and time to think the past over. The state of origin (during the rising of passion) pays our attention to considering about our past. Passion erases the past pains as an avalanche and leaves a place for something new. Offense, malice against others leave, there is no place for them in a state of passion. The past acquires other senses. Arising up passion defies to bases of old structure a person lives in. Passion compels to revise our lives and to be born anew. Everyday life does not give such revision. Daily occurrences include a range from experiencing of rest to experiencing of troubles. Passion balances from an ecstasy to anguish. Passion is a strong craving for other person, as a thirst of water in the desert.

Passion sets our desires free, put them in a center of everything. We always have a choice between everything and nothing in passion. Alberoni introduces such a concept as “to be disposed to passion”. One turn into religion, other go to the policy and another fall in love passionately. How does passion engendered? A person begins to feel tension of the soul and shame for poverty of the existence. At this time we as though to lose reference points in life, some part of ourselves, we cease to be such as before, we do not see a prospect in the future. That why we feel a disappointment at ourselves, at what we loved before. We fall in pessimism, retreat into ourselves. Passion arises from a depressed-stress state, feeling of dissatisfaction.

In a state of origin of passion a persons can carry away other one by his feelings aspirations and passion. Passion transforms simple people into poets and artists. The one in love ardently, begins to create the fantastic, poetic world. When we are at the mercy of passion, we want to fix experiencing, stop an instant in time, to last it longer and transform to the state of stability and quiet confidence. Some people can’t bear the tension of passion and try to restrain it, to lead it in the world of daily occurrences in a condition of stability and quiet reliance. Aspiring to stability and relations arise in passion. Passion is the state of origin, it is an experiment on the border of possible, attempt of desired to confirm in real world.

A sexual act during passion grows into a desire to meet with the body of the sweetheart, live in this body and give him all completely and vice versa, to absorb him wholly. All of senses are turned to one person only. And it is not important, who is this person, only that passion, which generates the great power involving us to merge with that person are important. It doesn’t depend on will and our reason.

What has happened with people who are close to the origin of something new? For the outer world of witnesses of the engendered passion, the rupture of former relationship mean the destruction of former structure and as a result the denial of what is going on and resistance to it. The abandoned wife appeals to the relatives, to psychics, to return her husband. She tryes sorcery and wizards, she takes great pains to return an old regime, old relations. The wife says: Well, go to her, but I will find a method to revenge you. You will never be happy with her!

And now about love! Love is the state of creation the relations. A purpose of passion is confluence of two different people; both want something that is important for each of them. Confluence unites the desires of two people into single will. Love is a fight of relations; in love everybody wants other to estimate dignities of his personality. Is it possible to love two persons? Yes, we love the parents, husband, and friend. But only two persons can participate in passion. A man can be grabbed by passion only to one object for sometime. Two passions can not exist simultaneously, because they would compel us to go on, putting in all of our heartfelt forces, to two different aims.

Passion does not last long. It is motion, some process, lasting some time. The state of calmness comes then, and if everything goes well, relationship and love arise. People, outliving passion changed and will never be former. They meet with the world and build relations. How does a transition from passion to love occur? Passion is passed by a lot of tests, if sweethearts maintain them, their relations grow into love. If passion does not pass tests, it disappears. Tests are different: test on purity of senses, tests on reciprocity, test for overcoming of obstacles of environment. “Do you agree to accept me with my problems and with all my prejudices ?”. Each person who falls passionately in love clashes with some qualities in character of other that can’t be changed and it is also a test.

Love - is relations, passion about motion to someone. O.Kernber named the book on love Relations of love. I love other man and relate with him. I, other one and love – there are three of us. Passion can become the love. But while there is passion - there are no relations, because there is not other person. Only me and my excitation, desiring of object, motion to him.